Things Which Just Should Not Be

“The world has changed. I see it in the water. I feel it in the Earth. I smell it in the air. Much that once was is lost, for none now live who remember it.” ~ JRR Tolkien

I am an avid reader and follower of the writings of Mr. Tolkien and have been for most of my adult life. I heartily agree with this passage from The Lord of the Rings because it bears truth even so many years after it was first written. Things have changed in the world of men…drastically.  I dare say men of even one generation ago would not recognize what passes for men in today’s society.

There are so many things men do these days which make me wonder if I’m looking at a man or a woman. In the movie Dumb & Dumber, Harry and Lloyd are walking down the street in Aspen and pass an attractive woman and man walking in the opposite direction, when Harry turns and says, “Ooh, look at the buns on that one.” Lloyd replies, “Yeah, he must work out.” This is what we’re dealing with in America right now; you can’t tell the men from the women.

I went to buy a pair of jeans the other day and what I found in the men’s department made me think I was in the ladies section. It seemed to be almost every pair of jeans had some type of bling on the back pockets. I had to do a double take to see if I was in the right place. 

What’s with decorating the back side of men’s jeans anyway? I know when I’ve seen women wear these types of pants it draws my eye towards their derrière. Is this the point? To cause us to look at the buns on that one?

Of course I realize there are ladies out there who may like it when their man wears these type of leg coverings, but do men really like this? 

Maybe I’m just an old redneck who finds it silly, I don’t know. My kids are always trying to get me to stop buying jeans from Walmart, but sorry it won’t happen; mainly because I appreciate spending less then $20 instead of over $100.

Whatever the case, I think some things just shouldn’t be and jeans with butt decorations are one of them, but another close second and third would be man buns and deep v neck t-shirts. 

I’ve written about my disdain for man buns in a previous post; you can read it here. And while I’ll  admit a plunging neck line in women’s clothing is nice (don’t hate me I’m a man) I don’t know anyone who wants to look at this portion of a man’s body. 

Let’s just admit the truth here and be done with it; the female form is an exquisite work of art, but the male is utilitarian, the way it was intended to be. Can we just go back to men being men and women being women please?


Strip Clubs

What’s with this desire some men have to go to strip clubs?  They will spend hundreds of dollars on booze, lap dances and who knows what else, just to go home frustrated.  I can honestly say I have never stepped foot inside one of these establishments and never will.

When I was twenty-one I stayed in New Orleans with a friend from college.  We spent an entire day in the French Quarter drinking our way from one bar to the next.  As we walked past a strip club, my friend said, “Hey, let’s go in here!”  My reply was instead to suggest we go into the wax museum which was right next door.  We did neither and just found another watering hole.

Even when I was single, living for myself and doing whatever I wanted to do, I never had any desire to go watch a bunch of half naked women dance around a pole and put my hard earned money into their g-strings.  It’s not because I don’t like women, on the contrary; I think the greatest creation God ever made was the female form; it’s like an inspired work of art.  Strip clubs have always just seemed sleazy to me. I’m not saying the girls are sleazy, I can’t make this judgement as I don’t know their stories.

Nothing captivates my attention more than my bride’s body.  Believe me, if you were to ask her, she’d tell you I’m a little bit obsessed with it (even though this aggravates her most of the time).  It’s a God given desire placed in all men and is a great thing as long as it’s used correctly.

Electricity is a great thing. When you use it properly it will light and cool your home and is what is allowing me to write this.  But if you disregard the rules concerning electricity, it can kill you.  Fire is another thing which is good; you can use it to heat your home, cook your food and I love to sit alongside my fire pit on a cool evening with friends, but again there is the possibility of death if handled incorrectly.

The desire to see a woman’s naked bodies is much the same.  In the context of marriage it’s not a bad thing, but if mishandled leads to time lost, money spent, and ignoring your family.  If left unchecked, this desire will lead you eventually to sitting on pervert row in a strip club leering at dancing women who may have their own issues.

I’m not a prude, but I do know this, strip clubs are not the answer to this desire inside of men.  What will cultivate this area in you is to love one woman and build a life together.  Spend time connecting with your bride, and you will find the results will be much healthier, not to mention, you won’t go home at night frustrated and all your money gone.

Now you know what I think, what do you think?






Feminizing Men

What’s with the man bun?  I was in a restaurant a while back and as our waiter introduced himself I noticed this stringy looking blob of hair on the crown of his head.  As he turned to leave and go fill our drink order, I saw it was actually hair pulled back into a bun like my mom used to wear.

It seems to have become a real thing, and many young men have started to sport this new hair style; which is really not new at all, it’s something women have been doing with their hair forever and now some men have adopted it as their own.  As strange as it is for men to want to take on women’s fashion, there is nothing new about this.

powdered wig

In the 18th century about the only way to tell men and women apart was the ladies wore dresses and the men pants.  Their hair styles were very similar and both wore make up.  Of course only the very rich did this, but that didn’t make it right.

I’m an old school, John Wayne loving, redneck man when it comes to fashion I guess, but it seems just a little strange to me why men would want to look like girls.  I mean aren’t there enough women in the world? And why do women want men to be more like them?

I kind of identify with the Jewish men of old who would pray and thank God He had not made them a woman. And I promise I’m not a male chauvinist pig like my mother has said for years, I appreciate the women’s movement, especially from behind. (Thanks Rush Limbaugh)  Go ahead and laugh, you know it’s funny.

I think men should be men and women should be women. I know this is an unenlightened mindset in today’s world, but I really don’t care, it’s who I am.  It was C.S. Lewis who said in “The Abolition of Man” “We make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honor and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and then bid the geldings to be fruitful.”

Men and women were made the way God intended them to be; male or female. Then man gets involved in the process and changes things by saying, “Gender is decided by what is inside of the person, not by the equipment they pack.” (Dave’s translation) Whoever thought we’d be having discussions about who should be using which restroom?  It’s pretty simple, if you stand to pee, then use the men’s room, and if you sit to pee, the women’s.

Please understand me, I am not making fun, or saying anyone is less important or valuable as a person because of how they dress, or which restroom they want to use, but I am saying enough is enough.  All of this making men into women has got to stop. The world needs men to be men, and women to be women, let’s quit blurring the lines and get back to the simpler thing of men being men, and women being women.

Now you know what I think, tell me what you think.