I am many things; a man, husband, father, friend, saint, sinner, employee, comic relief, coffee drinker, movie watcher…the list goes on and on. Suffice it to say, I wear a variety hats, just as do you. But there is one word which describes me best and that word is Christian.
I am a follower of Christ. And while I have the same passions as other men, and may not always be the best example of what a Christian should be, I do try to live to the best of my abilities every day. The reason I’m telling you this is because today’s blog is being written from a very blatant Christian point of view and I don’t want you to misunderstand where I am coming from.
The Bible says in Romans 4:17b; “…even God, who quickens the dead, and calls those things which be not as though they were.” This is a foundational truth; calling things which be not as though they were. It’s how God created everything; He thought about it, then said it, and it was. This is how He has made us too; we believe something in our hearts and say it with our mouths, then we have what we say. (Perhaps not immediately, but eventually).
I thought about this in regards to our children and what we say about them. I heard a lady say the other day that her little boy was in his terrible twos. I’m sure you’ve heard this term before, perhaps you’ve even said this about your own children. She said this as an excuse for the way her son was behaving; he was screaming and acting out, getting on everyone’s nerves. I thought to myself; no, he is acting this way because she is allowing it, instead of disciplining him and making him mind her.
When you tell someone your child is in their “terrible twos”, what are you expecting from your kid; good behavior or bad? Obviously you believe in your heart your baby is going to act bad when they turn two and then when you say they are in their terrible two’s you just got what you said. You believed it in your heart and said it with your mouth and created something just like God did when He created the world.
Your mouth is more powerful than you realize. It is a well spring from where you create your world and the world your children live in as well. This may be one of the most difficult things I have ever had to learn, because it is so easy to say negative things about your life instead of positive, wouldn’t you agree? Negative words flow so easy from my mouth, while encouraging and uplifting words I have to seriously work to say.
I remember one time when my youngest son Noah was about six or seven; his mother had asked him to do something and he began muttering and complaining about it. As he was headed out the front door to do what he’d been told, Cheryl said to him, “Noah, remember you can have what you say.” to which he responded as he passed through the door, “I got a million bucks!”
Noah may have been saying that facetiously at the moment and it does make me chuckle whenever I think about it, but the Scripture I stated at the beginning of this blog is the truth and there is no doubt in my mind Noah would have had what he said eventually if he’d actually believed it in his heart.
This principle works in both the negative and positive aspects of life. You can have what you say for good or bad; it’s up to you and no one else. If you want it, then go out and get it. Change what you’re saying to match the dreams and desires you have for your life and then dare to believe what God says is true and you will have those things.
And instead of believing the worst for your kids, why not speak positive things about them instead of negative. Instead of the terrible twos, why not call them the terrific twos? It’s all in what you say after all.