Spank That Butt!

Have you ever been out having dinner with friends or trying to enjoy a movie, only for there to be  a family there not controlling their kids and letting them run wild?  Kids like this can ruin a pleasant evening out, not to mention bring added stress if it turns out it’s your kids causing the problems.

My bride and I were at dinner last night with friends and we told them to bring their little girl Mia with them.  Afterwards, Cheryl and I talked about how good she was on our way home.  We were together with them for about three hours and she never acted up, even though at one point she did say, “Mommy, I’m ready to go home.”  It was the most pleasant evening with a four year old I’ve ever had.

I wish I could say this was true of all little kids, but unfortunately it is not.  One of the reasons Mia is such a good girl is because her mom and dad know the importance of discipline.  As we were leaving from having our dessert, Mia’s mom told her to thank me for buying her dinner.  She became bashful and didn’t want to.  For my part, I was okay if she didn’t say it, but I knew what Amberly was doing so I stood there in uncomfortable silence waiting for her to thank me.

When it was apparent she wasn’t going to thank me, her mother said to thank me or they were going to the restroom and have a talk.  They ended up going for a talk, so I went outside where Cheryl and Will were waiting.  Will gave me a “what’s going on look” and I told him they were in the restroom talking.  He grinned and said, “Oh she probably needed it.”  When the ladies came outside from their talk, without hesitation, Mia looked right at me and said in a loud voice, “Thank you for my dinner.”  The main reasons she did this is because her mom and dad know the importance of discipline and spanking her when she needs it.

Now before you get mad, hear me out.  When I talk about spanking, I’m talking about doing it the correct way; using it to reinforce positive behaviour.  I am not talking about spanking your child because they are annoying you; this is wrong and should never be what spanking is about.  And if this is what you’re doing with your kids, stop it.

My bride and I spanked all three of our kids, and despite what the “experts” try and say, none of them turned out to be homicidal maniacs, killers or horrible people. Spanking your child in the correct fashion is a deterrent to bad behaviour not an encouragement of it.

The biggest problem with children acting up in public is the parents.  If they would be consistent in their discipline and actually make their kids mind, 99% of the problems would disappear.  Unfortunately parents for some reason or other choose not to do anything about their children, thinking it will all work out in the end.  And yes, it usually does, they become bratty teenagers, then adults who refuse to take any responsibility for their actions later on in life.

One last thought on this for today; when you spank, please don’t use your hand, use a wooden paddle.  Your hands were designed to hold and love your children, not hit them.  Plus hitting with your hands makes them fear you, not the paddle which administers the discipline.  When you use a paddle, they will come to respect it.  So don’t wait, start spanking that butt today.

Now you know what I think, what do you think?


Hi, My Name Is ED And I’m Addicted To Porn

Their dinner finished and the kitchen cleaned, John and Suzy settled into their respective places in the living room; she on the couch reading her latest romance novel and he in his recliner on his phone surfing the web.  This had become a typical night home for them, now in their second year of marriage.

Turning page after page only heightened her desire for John as the evening wore on.  And after about an hour she laid the book down, got up and walked over to him.  Out of the corner of his eye he saw her moving towards him and quickly switched the screen of his phone over to Facebook from the pornographic images he was scrolling through.

“Honey, let’s go to the bedroom.” she purred tugging on his earlobe with her lips.

“Sounds good,” he said, “go on and get ready and I’ll be there in a minute.”

Running her fingers across his chest she rose and went to the bedroom.  Quickly he opened the browser on his phone and started looking for a video which would give him an erection before heading to the bedroom.

Porn usages have risen in the world by extraordinary rates in the past few years, and with it so has erectile dysfunction. One thing which has not been discussed much until recently however is the connection between porn usage and ED.  In watching a video about this subject I was surprised to hear that many young men now between the ages of 18 – 25 have little to no desire for sex.  What?!?  When I was this age, it was predominantly on my mind.  Oh who am I kidding?  It’s still predominantly on my mind today and I’m 52.

In his book “The Brain That Changes Itself”, MD Norman Doidge said,

“Today, young men who surf porn are tremendously fearful of impotence or “erectile dysfunction” as it is euphemistically called.  The misleading term implies that these men have a problem with their penises, but the problem is in their heads.  It rarely occurs to them that there may be a relationship between the pornography they are consuming and their impotence.”

An interesting finding is intense exposure to pornographic stimuli results in a down regulation of the natural neural response to sexual stimuli.  Meaning quite simply, when you flood your mind with pornographic images seeing your wife’s naked body just doesn’t do it for you any more.

The question I must ask, is why do you feel the need to look at porn in the first place? Is there something missing in your relationship with your bride, or did you bring this into your marriage from bachelorhood? Whatever the reason, you need to eradicate porn from the equation of your relationship.

If you are suffering from ED, don’t go to the doctor for a pill; the problem is more than likely not in your pants, it’s in what you’re viewing, so stop your porn usage. The one thing I found in my study of this, is the men who are having trouble with ED when they stopped their porn intake, regained their normal sexual desire within a few months.

The good news is this is one area where willpower actually is the main ingredient in your success. If it helps however, find a good accountability software and put it on your phone and computer.  Slay this giant before it slays you, and get back to enjoying sexual fulfillment with your bride, you’ll be glad you did and so will she.