Come On Guys!

On my 30th anniversary vacation with my bride, I had the opportunity to notice something which has bothered me for many years. While riding buses to and from Disney, many men stayed seated forcing ladies to hold onto the handrails while the public transportation delivered us to our destinations.

On the worst trip home to our hotel one night, the bus was packed and I thought I heard cows mooing in the back, a lady said to her daughters who were standing next to her, “I guess there’s no gentlemen on this bus.” This got me to thinking, is chivalry dead? Are men just selfish and don’t care anymore? Or more likely, are boys no longer being taught what it means to be a man who acts like the knights of old?

One thing my dad did teach me was how to treat a lady. And it has always bothered me when I see men seated while women are standing. It’s not because they’re weaker or anything, truth be told, women are way stronger than men will ever be. You try pushing a person out of your body and then let’s talk. No, the reason to offer your seat, is it is the right thing to do.

Knights lived by a code which governed their every action. Most men today live by the code of “I’m gonna get mine and to heck with everyone else!” This is why you see these boy-men remain seated while women stand.

There’s a knightly code in the movie Dragonheart that I love, and it would be a good one for all men to aim to live by. It goes like this:

“A Knight is sworn to valour, His heart knows only virtue, His blade defends the helpless, His might upholds the weak, His word speaks only truth, His wrath undoes the wicked.”

Maybe some of these words don’t mean anything to you. Words like valour, virtue, truth, but they should. Every man should live his life with valour, virtue and truth. Without these things we are men to be most pitied. Dads, teach your sons well, lead them on the quest of becoming true, chivalrous men in this age of darkness. Do this and they will become shining beacons of hope for the next generation. There’s a great book called Raising Modern Day Knights, pick up a copy and train your sons.

And the next time you have an opportunity to offer your seat, hold open a door or do any other chivalrous act for a lady, do it and you will feel something triumphant rise up inside of you. And you will make this world just a little bit better in the process.

3 thoughts on “Come On Guys!

  1. Maybe I accidentaly enter this site, but I DISagree, beside priority passenger (pregnant, elderly, baby, disability), everyone have SAME right. I just want to share good quote:
    “Chivalry is just a stereotype and expectation placed on men You can’t reject one stereotype(women are weak and better staying at home) but embrace another stereotype of men giving up seats for women who are perfectly capable of standing. That’s very hypocritical to only choose the stereotypes that benefit one gender”.
    Chivalry reduce kindness become only men to women, everyone should practice kindness regardless of gender. I’m a man btw and from Asian, sorry if my English is not good.

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  2. Sorry I forget it, I hope she is not wife, and I don’t want have future wife like this, I hope if I will have daughter, my daughter won’t grow up become like this.
    Please see the video, if you have time :). Thx u.

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