I was working a few days ago, and an older man struck up a conversation with me while waiting for his truck to be loaded. There had some pretty rough weather the night before, so we were discussing this. A few minutes into the conversation he said something which caused me to lose all respect for him.
He said, “Man, last night every time it thundered, that bitch rolled over and asked me if everything was all right!” It was noisy and I wasn’t sure I had heard him correctly until he used this same word to describe his wife five more times. He went on to say, “What was supposed to be a thirty minute deal has ended up being four years and the bitch is wearing me out.”
Men who refer to their wives in a derogatory manner really piss me off. And these are always the men who wonder why their marriages are crappy. What are they, morons? How long can you bad mouth someone and still keep respect for them? It’s not possible.
I stood there thinking, “Wow! This guy’s a real treasure.” I’m pretty sure he knew how I felt too, because it had to be written all over my face. I was taught to respect my elders, and this man was older than me, but Mom, I’m sorry there was no way I could respect this guy.
It’s one thing to complain about a situation with your wife, but to actually call her names, or talk about her like she’s worthless is something which should never be done, period. There are not many things I hate in this world, but this tops the list. A husband’s job is to love his wife; which means her needs come before yours bubba. Yeah, I know you probably don’t want to hear this, but it’s true.
There are times when I come home from a hard day’s work and I’m spent; physically and mentally. All I want to do is sit and vegetate in front of the television. Truthfully if I said nothing all night it would be okay. But my wife needs to know how my day went. In order for me to love her, I need to talk about it. She needs this, I don’t. But because I love her and we are building a life together, if it is important to her, then it is important to me.
The bottom line is this, you married her because you saw something there you desired. Now man up and love her because she deserves it. Quit being a putz and love her the way she needs to be loved; even if this is assuring her during a storm everything is alright, then do it. It’s what men are supposed to do.
If you’re talking ugly about your wife to other men, it’s like drinking poison. The liquid may quench your thirst for a moment, but it’s going to kill you in the end!