Opening a web browser on his phone and selecting a search engine, Sean typed in the words “”naked girl”, and waited for the images to appear on his handheld device. Rising up from the cubicle, he looked around the office once more to make sure no one was headed in his direction; satisfied, he sat back down selecting a picture and looked at the nude image of a voluptuous red headed woman.
After a few moments, he pressed the next button and a flaxen haired beauty appeared spread eagle on a bed revealing all God had given her. The next twenty minutes was pretty much the same, every few seconds Sean clicking to view another picture or video. And as he continued viewing the images his desire for these girls grew and his need for sexual release became stronger.
Finally unable to take it any more, he got up from his cubicle and made his way to the men’s room. Entering one of the stalls and locking it behind him, he took out his phone with one hand, dropped his trousers with the other and masturbated while looking at more pictures on his phone.
Men since the dawn of time have been captivated by the sight of a naked woman’s body. There is just something about it which drives us men crazy. I heard a comedian say once, “If you’ve seen one boob, you want to see the rest of them.” Go ahead and laugh, it’s funny because you know it’s true.
When I was a boy, you could look at porn if you could find someone’s stash of magazines. But in today’s technological world all you have to have is a smart phone and you’ve got access to more images than have ever been produced in all the skin magazines made since their beginning back in 1953.
And with the advent of cell phones with internet capability, more men have lust issues than ever before. Lust is not a new thing either; it has been around since the dawn of time. And it’s not just bad people who are affected by it either, lust affects us all.
This desire to see a naked woman’s body is not inherently a bad thing, but if it’s not controlled it can be. The problem is every time you look at pictures of naked women, it decreases the desire for your own wife, or it causes you to place unrealistic expectations on her. You begin thinking to yourself about how she doesn’t do what the women you see on your phone do. Or worse, you begin to see her only as a release for your sexual desires instead of your partner in life.
This is not to say if you’re not married you get a pass. If you indulge in porn, you will bring those unrealistic expectations with you into your marriage, and it will not enhance it, it will make it worse.
To be totally honest and transparent with you, wanting to look at porn on my phone is an issue I deal with. The thing which has helped me steer clear of this however is I figured out what triggers me to want to go there. And figuring out this trigger has made it easier for me to stay away.
My trigger is whenever my relationship with my bride is not in a good place, or when I’m bored. Whenever Cheryl and I are not communicating well, or perhaps we’ve had a disagreement about something, this desire to go to porn instead of talking to her emerges. Or if I’m sitting around not doing anything, it is easy to start randomly surfing the internet with no actual purpose.
Lust can destroy us, if we allow it. What we have to do is take control of our lives; making the choice to steer clear of lust and all the things which take us there. Lust in the sexual sense takes away the relationship you have with your wife, it does not increase it. Put lust in its place, and don’t let it rule over you, and your life will be better for it.
Now you know what I think, what do you think?