I’d like to start this out with a confession; I am not a perfect man and I have told more than my share of lies in my life. I’m not proud of this fact; but to act as if I’d never done this and then write about it would make me the true definition of a hypocrite. Having admitted this however, I believe it gives me the right to discuss lies and honesty among men today.
Have you ever been lied to? How’d it make you feel? Betrayed, cheated, maybe like you don’t matter at all to the person lying? There is a whole range of emotions tied together with lying and being honest.
What gets me is when a man lies just to save himself a little bit of grief. Let’s say for instance you make a mistake at work, you get called on it and instead of facing up to it and taking the responsibility for your actions; you pass the buck, or try to divert the attention away from you and onto someone else.
When you do this, how do you think it makes the person being thrown under the bus feel? I can tell you from personal experience it makes me fighting mad. I would have more respect for the man who fesses up and takes the responsibility over the jack wang who doesn’t.
Let me bottom line this for you; if you’re a man, don’t tell lies and always be honest. It’s really a pretty simple way of life. The bad thing about lying is you lose all credibility with the person you’ve lied to. Trust can be regained, but it may take months or years.
Most of the times I’ve been lied to, it’s been because the person lying didn’t care about me as a person; therefore it was easy to lie to me. The problem with this is when I found out I was being lied to, it didn’t make me want to pursue any type of relationship with them either.
I think we should all adopt the “do unto others what you would have them do unto you” way of life. Perhaps if we spent more time focusing on others and not just ourselves lying would cease to exist. I can dream, right?
As I said at the beginning, I’m not perfect at this; I’ve told my share of whoppers in my 52 years, but this doesn’t mean I’ve given up. I’m presented with opportunities to lie just like everyone is, the only difference is I’ve made the decision I wouldn’t lie anymore.
Since making this decision, it has been difficult at times. Just because you decide to make a change in your life, don’t think everything will be perfect overnight. It won’t, you’ll be tested until you pass the test. But let me tell you the rewards are amazing and worth all the effort.
Listen men, if you’re in the habit of lying to save yourself a little grief, why not change, and instead of telling lies, grow a set and act like a real man and stop the lies and be honest with everyone.
Now you know what I think, let me know what you think.