It had been a few days since the death of my youngest son when I got the phone call. The daughter of a family friend recently had a miscarriage, and the young couple was facing challenges due to the loss of their baby. My friend asked if I would be willing to talk to the husband, and my answer was, “Absolutely, have him give me a call.”
The young man and I talked for a while; him asking questions about handling and dealing with loss and me doing my best to answer each one of them from my own experience. After we concluded our conversation; I sat there thinking about the loss of my son, the loss of their child and just life in general. It occurred to me, he must have felt he could talk to me about the loss of his child because I had lost a child too.
What I’ve learned is people value your opinions when they know you’ve walked in their shoes. It would be difficult for me to help someone else with the death of a child if I had never lost a child also. This is not to say I couldn’t console them and give them advice had my son not died, but then it would be more like me explaining something I’d read about instead of having experienced it firsthand.
Right now I’m sure there is more than a million plus blogs on the internet. Today, there will probably be more information shared on-line than there was in the entire year when I graduated high school. (1982 in case you were wondering) Why then should you spend five to ten minutes of your valuable time to read my blog? Because what I share with you in these stories has the capability of making you a better man.
One of the many things you will learn about me if you subscribe to my blog; I am an open, honest and transparent man. I share the good, the bad and the ugly parts of my life, and I do this in the hope it will help men become better husbands, fathers and friends. I won’t promise you will always agree with what I have to say, or that you’ll even like it. Heck, I’m opinionated and know it, and do you know what? It’s okay, because I don’t write for approval, I write because it is what I was created to do; it’s necessary, like breathing to me.
Life is interesting and meant to be shared. I don’t know everything, even though some people seem to think I feel as if I do. But what I do know I’d like to share with you, helping you to become a better man in the process.